Question: Is it wise to tell my family about my estate plan? Answer: It depends upon many factors: Will that conversation stir up friction before you die? Will it create unrealistic expectations about how much will be inherited? And on and on. Usually, a brief conversation is advisable, especially in terms of who will be in charge if you become incapacitated and when you die. Consult with your estate planning attorney about the advisability of having that conversation with your family. - Attorney Jack N. Alpern